Don’t Rape Her.

Quoted from Xenoflare:

A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn’t have long hair and women shouldn’t wear short skirts. Women shouldn’t leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn’t dare to get drunk at all.
Instead of that bullshit, how about:

If a woman is drunk, don’t rape her. If a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her. If a women is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her. If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her. If a woman is jogging in a park at 5AM, don’t rape her. If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her. If a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her. If a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her. If a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her. If a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her. If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape her. If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape her. If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her. If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her. If your step-daughter is watching TV, don’t rape her.

If you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her. If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend. If your “friend” tells you he raped someone, report him to the police. If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and report him as a rapist.

Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, and sons of friends that it’s not okay to rape someone.

Don’t just tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape. Don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x, y, or z. Don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault. Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he “got some” with the drunk girl. Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can too help yourself. Rape is not about sex, it’s about control and power, and what kind of power comes from taking advantage of others? No power anyone should ever desire.


4 thoughts on “Don’t Rape Her.

  1. Keerat Kaur says:

    I wholeheartedly agree…Why is it always the woman’s fault? Why is she “asking for it”? We need to look at our society and see not just the cracks but the ravines that have been made with years of condescending talk about “loose women”. Why can’t a man in India take no for an answer? Why can’t he bear the fact that women are not his to own and control?

    Rape should be awarded death and nothing less!


  2. Brian Mendonca says:

    While I agree that there is absolutely no excuse to let men have their way, you must also know that in a country like India men come from a lot of different walks of life. It is culture, upbringing and stubborn values that ultimately leads to rape. Not every man in India is educated and sophisticated. And worse, most have never ever had any physical contact (even holding hands) with women right until the time they marry. They are naturally frustrated. And of course, without education we’re as good as animals aren’t we? For those men, instinct overpowers coherent thought. And those men are prowling all over the place. So I’d suggest women to be a little more wary about their own safety. You don’t wanna go on an African jungle safari on foot. Preaching to animals doesn’t help.


    • harsimrankapoor says:

      Thanks Brian for the comment – but I don’t think ‘education’ is the problem here. Well educated people are also prone to indulge in rape. It’s just that as a part of their upbringing – no matter which income or eduction standard, it MUST be taught that everyone deserves respect & adherence to their boundaries. Right now – it’s only about power – and acting upon baser instincts just because it makes the person feel more powerful.


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